What They Don’t Tell You About Postpartum

Beware… I’m going to be honest, if you just want to experience this in your own way then don’t read on. These are just a few points I wish I had known and what I’d learnt through my experience.

In the months leading up to giving birth I did a lot of research on the whole giving birth thing, I just wanted to know what to expect without completely scaring myself, however what I seemed to bypass or forget to do was research a little in the part after, even though I didn’t do a lot of digging around I didn’t find much when I typed in ‘what to expect when giving birth?’ So here is a few things I wish I knew:

Pooing is going to be painful. 

TMI, well all of these are going to a bit TMI. Your first few bowel movements are going to be painful, I was absolutely petrified the first time and my tip would be to try not to worry about it. My midwife told me if I hadn’t passed a bowel movement within the first week I’d need to take laxatives and this straight away concerned me. Luckily it was okay in the end but just try not to get too worked up about it as it’s only going to make it worse. It will be painful but you have this beautiful bundle of joy so it’s all worth it.

You’ll need a lot of underwear (that you don’t mind getting ruined)

This is one that I actually did prepare for but didn’t realise quite how important it actually is. There will be A LOT of blood just bare that in mind. Pick up some primarni comfy seamless pants.

For the first couple of days after giving birth you’ll probably walk like you’ve pooed yourself

A watermelon has just been pushed through your vagina (okay, a baby, but same size.) of course you’re going to walk a little funny. If like me you had an episiotomy it could be worse and you’ll end up walking like an elephant.

Start stocking up on maternity towels

You’re going to need these for the first few weeks after giving birth, and perhaps for your first period too. You haven’t had a period in 9 months. I never realised how much blood was in my body! ha.

You’ll probably cry a lot

If like me you’re an emotional wreck at the best of time, this will be a whole other story. It only took three days for the flood gates to open, I was crying at nothing and realising I had this amazing beautiful girl and then I’d cry about crying.. I didn’t know this but a lot of hormones are in your placenta and releasing these are going to give you the dreaded ‘baby blues’.

Breastfeeding is the hardest thing ever

For me breastfeeding was something I wasn’t expecting to be as difficult as it was, I was told it was natural so why wasn’t it easy? I didn’t even realise your milk doesn’t come in until day 3, and by day 3 Darcy was so hungry she became dehydrated and back to hospital we had to go. I persevered for three weeks and after crying in pain every time she wanted feeding I unfortunately gave up, I began having feelings of not bonding with Darcy and if I had carried on I think I would been going down the road of post-natal depression.

Everything aches like you’ve run a marathon

I remember the first few days feeling not just like I’d had a session down the gym but like I’d done about three marathons and been on boot camp for a month, I was ACHING ALL OVER. no more words needed.

As a couple it is the most stressful change

I dont think Paul and I knew what we were in for, we don’t function well with sleep deprivation so looking after a baby was very hard for us, along with the breastfeeding drama. We have definitely gotten used to it now and the change in us is amazing. We try to make sure we still make time for each other and I think this is very important for any couple to do.

Don’t look at your crotch

I didn’t personally do this one because I was far too frightened but I’d advise any other fellow vaginal deliverers to not look at your crotch it won’t look the same…

Your hair might break

This was another one I wasn’t expecting, all along the front of my hairline my hair broke off and I have little baby hairs there now,  I know it is worse for a lot of people so I’d consider myself quite lucky.

Your breasts will be heavy

If your breastfeeding you’ll know that as soon as your milk comes in your boobs will feel heavy and hard, and then when you stop breastfeeding it’s even worse and they become engorged and then you have leaky bosoms.

They stitch you up right away

So you’ve had the baby and you think it’s over.. it’s not. Your then stitched up if you needed to which I thought was worse than giving birth in my opinion. I know others thought differently.

They’ll make you get in the shower straight after giving birth

Not even two hours after I’m told to go and have a shower or bath I chose shower although at the time I wanted to do neither, all I wanted to do was lie there in all my achiness & not have to get up and walk around, I just had a baby!

On a beauty side of things, your skin might change

Last but definitely not least, I thought we would end this on a beauty note, for me my skin changed and went quite dry this is the least of my problems and I just adapted my skincare routine for it. When I could initiate a routine around a baby.

These have all sounded pretty negative but there was one big positive that pushes all of these negatives out of the way, you have the most amazing beautiful little creation and bundle of joy in your life now and these points don’t matter one bit.